Try a new lubricant, a different playlist, or even just eye contact. High-intensity eye contact can heighten intimacy more than almost any physical trick. 4. Safety and Health A healthy sex life is a safe one.

For many, foreplay starts hours before the actual act. Small gestures, physical touch (non-sexual), and flirtatious texts build the necessary tension.

Sometimes just moving from the bed to the couch or a different room shifts the energy.

It’s the least "sexy" part of sex, but the most important. You can’t expect a partner to read your mind.